Debra Taiwo on Clubhouse

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THE CAREGIVERS CREED

I take care of myself. I know that if I am not healthy and sound,
I cannot care for another person effectively.

I accept that care giving involves an incredible range of emotions,
from anger to joy, from resentment to compassion.

I accept that my feelings are not right nor wrong.
And they are as natural and unavoidable as breathing.

I have the right to receive consideration, affection, forgiveness and acceptance
from my loved one as long as I offer these qualities in return.

I ask for and accept help willingly. I involve my family, friends and the community in the care of my loved one.
I understand that it’s not my role to do it all, nor is it best for my loved one.

I actively seek out information that can help me as a caregiver.
I recognize that information is empowering.

I respect the preferences and decisions of the family member/person I’m caring for.
I extend to my loved one the dignity and courtesy I would wish to receive if the tables were turned.
I have the right to reject any attempt by my loved one
( either conscious or unconscious ) to manipulate me through guilt, anger or depression.

I recognize that change – good and bad – is a natural part of care giving. I remain flexible and open to change.

I celebrate the small successes and allow myself to grieve the disappointments.
I share my feelings with those who can empathize.

I am mindful of my own needs and I guard my rights as a caregiver.
I do not allow my caregiver’s role to overwhelm the other aspects of my life.

I forgive myself my shortcomings and I congratulate myself for the effort and love I put into my care giving.

(taken from http://careliving.net/creed.aspx)

As a Caregiver, what is your self care regimen?